What I Can’t Say In Class
A recent comment in one of the discussion forums in my AIDS course has me fuming! Here is the thread.
Lee: I am a very paranoid person when it comes to STD’s and am always very careful and use prevention. I have to say though that at times you just want to live in the moment and not worry about reaching for the condom box and. I think that what Dr Curran said was very true. I think that a lot of the times women are sort of pressured to not use a condom cause ‘it kills the moment’ or ‘the love’
Kristen (Me): It’s very unfortunate that men and women feel that condoms wreck sex. They are what keeps sex safe and too me, nothing says “I care about you” more then being safe!
I have heard many women (and sometimes from my own experience) tell me that men have said “I don’t have sex with a woman who is not on birth control.” This clearly places all the pressure on women to be in charge on contraception. Some women, such as myself, cannot be on hormonal contraceptives because of horrible side effects so condoms are all we have.
This is a great example of where sexual education, female empowerment and the breaking down of patriarchal beliefs and systems can greatly improve everyone’s physical and mental health!
Hui: Well, condoms do wreck sex. It’s a too obvious fact of life.
The question is whether it’s worth enduring a wrecked sex life and for how long. I personally don’t.
Kristen (Me): I personally feel it is that thought that Lee and Dr. Curran were talking about as being why many individuals end up contracting HIV/AIDS because of the negative beliefs (and even experiences) that people have about condoms and pleasure.
What, to me, is a fact, scientifically proven over and over is the effectiveness of condoms to prevent HIV/AIDS and other STI’s. I feel that is the obvious fact of life.
What I actually wanted to say:
What the fuck is wrong with you?!?!?! You need to change your fucking attitude and get your generalizations under control! HOW DARE YOU PARTICIPATE IN CREATING NEGATIVE INFORMATION THAT, AS WE’RE LEARNING, CAN KILL PEOPLE!!!!!!! You just have a shitty attitude about sex overall if some penis balloon wrecks your sex life! You shouldn’t even be here in this course!!!!
…….I am no longer a part of this discussion due to my rage about it.
Posted on February 27, 2013, in Also Important! and tagged AIDS, anger, attitude, condoms, death, HIV, idiot, ignorance, prevention, safe sex, stereotype, STI, stupid. Bookmark the permalink. 13 Comments.