For the past year I have not added to my arsenal of self care techniques. Over the past 3 or 4 days I have thought about what I could add or change that could help me continue moving forward in my life and I came up with two things.
1. A Smash Book
A Smash Book is a cross between a scrapbook and a journal. I haven’t been able to complete a journal or effectively write in a journal since 2007, after I completed high school. This has bothered me a lot but it wasn’t until my Mother showed me her Smash Book that I seriously began thinking about doing one. Aside from being a fun way to record my life and what’s important to me, it will become a part of my past that I will want to show my children. My past journals are filled with horrible words and images that I would never want to share with my family but with a Smash Book my family can look back and see what articles I found important, quotes and songs I enjoyed, books I’ve read, my accomplishments and whatever else I want to put in it.
So far in my Smash Book I have a cover page that includes my picture and a quote (“Weird? Please, I’m limited edition.”), my first tarot card reading I gave myself with card my sister, A, gave my Christmas, the article “No one brings dinner when your daughter is an addict”, 2015 Reading Challenge, a page of meaningful songs and a page for things I’ve accomplished.
Here is a link to a board on Pinterest that has a bunch of Smash Book ideas! https://www.pinterest.com/hayleejdar/smash-book-ideas/
2. An Online DBT Class
I have been searching and searching and DBT in Toronto is just not accessible. I have been wanting to get into a DBT program for about 2 years with no luck (minus an awesome workbook). Finally, a sponsored post on Facebook popped up for DBT Path. The class is run by a peer who has used DBT to recover from BPD and also a social worker. It’s 9 months, with three modules (distress tolerance, emotion regulation and interpersonal effectiveness) and more. I spoke with my Mom and she’s going to help me pay for it (it’s a sliding pay scale). I’m very excited and hope that I register in time. I have been waiting for this and now is the time.