In DBT class this week we read about blocks to listening in our workbook. These are things we do that sabatoge our ability to listen effectively to others. Using these blocks can make our relationships difficult because if we do not listen effectively we will not be able to understand and speak effectively.
Here are the 10 blocks to listening as listed in the workbook.
If there is one block I’m REALLY, REALLY bad at its mind reading. I do this block at least 95-99% of the time when I’m engaged in emotional communication. I am not even a good mind reader but yet I keep telling B that I know what he’s TRULY thinking, what he ACTUALLY means and I know it is annoying and hurtful for him. My mind reading feeds my fear that I am not safe within my relationship. I am scaring myself and giving B the impression that I think he’s a bad person. This is a very ineffective strategy and mind reading is definitely a block to listening.
I also use: judging, advising, and being right (frequently)
What blocks to listening to you use?