A friend of mine posted an article on Facebook called, 3 Lies We Need to Stop Telling About ‘Negative People’. I could relate to the 3 lies the author pointed out and have spoken before (on this blog and in presentations) that the idea of constant happiness and complete emotional control is ridiculous and that there is value in our negative experiences.
Below is just bits from the original article. Please click the link above from the full article.
3 Lies We Need to Stop Telling About ‘Negative People’
1. There Are Positive People, Who We Should Aspire to Be Like, and Negative People, Who We Should Avoid Being Like
This is code for “Depressed people are terrible. Here are their mistakes for you to learn from so you’ll never be like those people.”
2. We Would All Be Happier If We Just Cut ‘Negative People’ From Our Lives
It’s one thing to cut out someone who is abusive or puts you in immediate danger. It’s another matter entirely to cut someone out of your life because they aren’t happy enough for you.
3. ‘Negative People’ Are Only Unhappy Because They Choose to Be
It’s unfair to tell someone who is struggling to just “think themselves out of it.” Mental health is far more complicated than that.