Help me develop a DBT-based parenting program!

This program will be based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. If proven successful there is a high possibility it will be moved online to support moms from around the world!

Here is the link for the survey! Thank you for your help and support 🙂

Experiences of Mom’s with Borderline Personality Disorder/Borderline Traits

 

Motherhood & Madness: How my Son has improved my mental health

 

I apologize for my frequent absences. I am balancing work, trainings, being a mom and partner as well as trying to find time to just do nothing. I will write here whenever I can and when I have something to say.

I spent a decent amount of time during my pregnancy worrying about developing postpartum depression/anxiety. So far, this has not happened. I have actually found that becoming a mom and my son has helped improve my mental health.

  1. My son is an amazing source of love. Having this little human that adores me makes me feel amazing. He smiles and laughs at me, reaches for me and my love for him is beautifully overwhelming. This is the best type of love I have ever felt.
  2. My son reminds me how amazing the little things are. Everything is new to him and he is very interested in many of the things adults take for granted. He also reminds me how amazing our bodies are. We don’t realize how amazing it is that we can hold our heads up, bring our hands to our mouths or move our bodies around. He is learning all of this right now and it is amazing to watch and know that I also went through the same process as a baby.
  3. My son is helping me get more sleep and eat better. I am exhausted most of the time. I have only felt rested once since my son was born. Since he does wake multiple times a night I do go to sleep earlier to ensure I get as much as possible. I eat better because breastfeeding takes a lot away from your body. I need to keep giving it more so my body can sustain my son and myself. We are starting solids soon, using Baby Led Weaning (BLW) so I will be eating much better because my son will be eating the same foods.
  4. My son has given me purpose. Before I had my son I did feel like I had a purpose. Since the birth of my son, I feel like my purpose is more complete. I love teaching him, exploring with him, being with him and I want what is best for him. I am constantly researching ways to ensure he grows and develops in a healthy way and I love knowing that I am contributing to him becoming the best he can be. I enjoy being a parent.

 

What would you want out of a BPD Mom program?

My boss has given me permission to begin research in the hopes of creating a program for Mom’s with BPD improve their relationship with their children and themselves. I am preparing a survey and in the meantime, I wanted to reach out here! If you do not already know me, I am a Mom who experiences borderline traits.

There is a lot of research out there that bashes Moms who experience BPD. Resources for Moms with BPD are scarce and I want to change that! If you feel comfortable, please leave a response in the comments below or you can wait for the survey as it is anonymous.

Who am I looking to hear from:

  • Moms who have BPD, borderline traits or believe they have BPD and have never been officially diagnosed.
  • Moms (of any age child)
  • Pregnant, first-time moms
  • Women who would like to be moms

What I would like to know is: if you signed up for a program on Mothering and BPD, what would you want in it? What would help you the most improve your relationship with your children? What would make you feel confident in your mothering as a first-time mom or someone who wants to be a mom?

 

Happy Mother’s Day 2016

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Image reads:

Happy Mother’s Day To: Every mother, every grandmother, every caretaker, chosen families, queer mamas, genderqueer and trans parents, incarcerated moms, those who wanted to but here unable to be mothers, moms who have lost their children and children who have lost their mothers.

I am celebrating my first Mother’s Day, I just don’t have my baby just yet! By the way, I had my gender reveal yesterday and B and I are having a boy!

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Image: A balloon that says “Baby Boy” and two star shaped ballons.

Never Thought I’d Enjoy This…

I seem to thrive on chaos. If my life isn’t hectic then I will create it despite hating it.

I’m home for the long weekend and my Mom asked me to help rip up some dying plants from the garden.

I enjoyed myself! Gardening is pretty zen. i was focused on cutting out the dead stuff and clearing out the area and nothing else.

Clearly I need to stop thinking that calm things are stupid.

I end up loving them and feeling great!